The Comparison Trap

Hey, Monday! 

And, ohhh, heeey Monday that I have off from work.  SO nice to see you!  Well, I guess I shouldn’t say that I’m completely off because I am teaching a morning Jazzecise class but I don’t have to sit my butt in my office chair for eight hours and that’s ‘off’ enough for me! 

This past week and, especially, this past weekend, I was doing something that I can’t say I’m very proud of.  I was falling into that crazy trap of comparing myself to others.  I know it happens to everyone and it happens more than we like but I try to keep it to a minimum around here.  It’s something that I have to work on and something that I’m constantly trying to improve in myself.  I am so thankful for my family, my friends, my job, my childhood, my experiences, and, well, basically, everything.  Even for those tough times I have gone through.  They weren’t easy but, in the end, I know they have made me a better person. 


So, with that being said, while I don’t envy anyone or want to be anyone else…I still have a crazy tendency to look at people that are where I want to be and tell myself that I’m not sure I’m capable of making it there.  It happens when I think about where I am professionally.  To say that I am thankful for my job is an understatement.  To say that I am happy at my job…now, that’s another thing.  Without going into crazy details about my life goals, I’ll just say that I would rather be somewhere else and doing something that provides me with, not only a challenge, but, also, something that fulfills me.  I am, currently, trying to get there and working on shifting my focus.  I am taking the first steps to branch out and expand my career in fitness while, also, trying to build a business and a brand.  Phew.  Just saying it makes me nervous. 

I have been a fitness instructor for ten years. 
I have recently started a business as a fitness coach.
I have blogged for five years.

Those are the thoughts that are facts.

I want to teach other classes in addition to what I do now.
I want to grow my business and use it as a significant part of my income.
I threw out my old blog and just started fresh with a new one last week.

Those are the thoughts that scare the crap out of me. 

My fear of growing and not having what it takes to get there is fueled by looking at others that are where I want to be.  Successful trainers, top fitness coaches, top bloggers – they are all inspirations to me but, on the flip side, also those that I see as having something that I don’t think I have.  I mean, they are so driven and do so well.  I’m sure that could never be me. 

Thankfully, I have a wonderful team of beautiful ladies surrounding me that quickly pushed all of those negative thoughts out of my head.  They made sure to make me see how ridiculous I was being and how I have the capability to do absolutely anything that I want to. 


I have been successful, I am successful, and I will continue to be successful. 
Because I want it.  Because I know the value of hard work.  Because I am driven. 

So, there you have it. 

I was down.  Thinking I wasn’t good enough.  Thinking that my dreams were crazy.  Funny how quickly that can happen, right!? 

I’m here, today, to share with you that you, too, are good enough. 

Being yourself is all you can be so you might as well rock it. 
You can do anything you put your mind to and work hard for. 
Don’t ever doubt yourself. 
You have what it takes. 
Believe that. 
Even if you have to wake up every morning and tell yourself. 
Do it. 

Now, go and crush your day!

Do you ever doubt yourself or where you are in life?
What do you do when you fall into the comparison trap?
Share something that you are proud of!

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